To Fall In Love

Falling in love is dangerous business, so they say. Who are they to know what they are even talking about. They say things like: "You're to young to fall in love" and "You don't know what love is". I believe they are blind, thinking they are the only ones who can love. Would you like to know what it takes to love? It takes a simple understanding and to know what you love, whether you love God, a friend, a spouse or significant other, a dog, a hobby, an idea, or even an inanimate object. All you have to do is know. You can't love something without knowing what that subject is. A baby may not know his mother's personality, thoughts, or emotions, but he does know his mother is there to care for him; therefore, he loves her. A preteen girl may be infatuated with a boy and call it love; she is not wrong to call it love. However, she does not understand what she loves. She loves the idea, and not the person. A man meets his future wife when he is almost through his adolescence. He falls in love with her, but they tell him he's too young to love; he's not. Most adolescents have a clouded mind, but they aren't particularly blind. He is in love and he knows it.

To fall in love is such a simple task. It's also a very complicated and complex one. Love is like a seed: you must first plant it in good soil. Then you must nourish it help it to grow. If it fails to keep growing, then you must plant another seed and attempt to keep it growing. Eventually, one seed will continue to grow and will not stop.
For love: You must find someone with whom you are equally yoked. Then you must come to know this person and understand them. If love ceases to grow, then you must find another. Eventually, you will be able to continually grow with someone and your love will never cease.
I all sounds so random. It isn't. It's simply whatever you make it. The thing is: it takes two. So you may have to plant a few seeds, but be careful not to plant more than one at once; you cant care for any more than one. And so, love is complex. You may not understand it at first and you will never fully understand it.

I have fallen in love once. The love ceased to grow. That doesn't meant the love isn't alive any longer, just that it has come to a point where it cannot go on. Without intentionally doing so, I have planted another seed. I didn't understand it at first, but it seems that I have fallen in love. My point now is to just grow. To simply grow...

To lose a love is something different... It is easy to do, though it is very complex. Love lost will be one of the worst things to ever happen to you. To let go is your own decision and to understand is your own goal to reach. If you stay in one place thinking you will never love another, you are wrong. And it may sound like I don't understand what you may be going through, but I do. I have experienced it and I know how to get through. The only problem is that no one can tell you how to get through even if they know. You have to discover it for yourself. So try to find help, and trust in God. If you do, He will lead you in the right direction: to a better place.