Love is a simple concept, yet we make it out to be so complicated. We sit here and try to figure love out instead of actually loving. In the English language, though, we have distorted the word greatly when it was already difficult to understand. When we speak of love, it could mean brotherly love, friendly love, or romantic love. Other civilizations were a bit more knowledgeable when it came to creating their language. They made sure the idea of love wasn't summed up in one word. It really is quite vague when I say something like brotherly love. What do you mean brotherly love? I mean love like that towards a brother. And how is love toward a brother? I honestly cannot go on; to explain it is beyond me. Most of us get the gist of what someone means when they say brotherly love. That is because most have siblings. I do not, however I believe I know what it means because I feel this love toward my best friends and some family members. I have a friendly love toward everyone, but don't ask any questions about that--that's a whole different blog. And I can say that I have romantically loved.
Romantic love is the one people find hardest to understand. Not it's meaning, rather whether or not they truly romantically love someone. Another way to say romantic love would be "in love". So then I should say: People have trouble understanding whether or not they are truly in love. My point in this is not to tell you how to fall in love but to know when you are in love. The only way I know how to explain being in love is by telling of all of the things it is not. 99 percent of the time, anyone under 16 has never fallen in love and doesn't quite understand love yet. No one will ever fully understand love, but some understanding is required to actually know whether you are in love or not. I am one of that one percent by a hair. I say 16 because I see it in most adults and people my age as well; this, i feel, is the time when we really begin to grasp love. My percentage could be wrong, but I don't feel like very many people at all do fall in love before 16. Young people get crushes, which are related to love in absolutely no way. Young people also become infatuated, which can become love if given time. To fall in love is probably something rare for us young people... but it is possible for us. Especially once we have been opened up to it. I don't know what else there is to say really, but when you fall in love, you completely click with the other person in every possible way or in no way at all. You love, simply, and truly, because you do.
Friday, July 3, 2009
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
To Simply Love: Irony of Sorts
Love is such an amazing idea. It's so amazing, I don't even want to consider it an idea. Some scientists have decided that a certain chemical process in the brain is "love." I don't know that they are right, but I do believe in love. We usually use the term beautiful to define anything appealing to the eyes; but Love is beautiful. They say that God is Love. I believe this to be true. It is the only concept that really make sense. For one: You simply cannot believe in God and not believe in love. Two: If you don't believe in God, love is only proof that He exists. It's a complex idea, but if you think about it, it really does make sense.
God isn't exactly my thesis in this unorganized, random blog. Love is the the point. Most people have been in those relationships where they said that they had fallen in love. Most of those people, after losing or leaving the relationship(s), deny that it was ever love. So how then do we know when we are in love? The way one is to love God is to know Him, for if you know Him it's not possible for you to not love Him. You may wish to fight me on this saying: But it is possible for one to know God and not love Him. The truth is, if you know Him completely then you will love Him. It's actually quite simple. What's not simple is to love other people. One cannot use the same way of love as mentioned above to love another person. In order to love another person, you do have to know them to a certain extent. But it takes more than just knowing them. It takes more because you can never fully know anyone except God. God is written of in the Bible where it tells of all of His greatness and none of the opposite because there really isn't any. No one person is written of to such an extent, and people are actually more complex than God. The reason is because God is loving, caring, and omnipotent, and we humans can be loving sometimes to certain people or things, caring half of the time because of selfish motivations, and definitely not omnipotent. But all of us are different. So we can't really love everyone to a full extent, though I must say that we can love everyone. We can love everyone with the love we would associate with a sibling. It may not be exactly like one's love for a sibling, but similar to. We love our closer friends more than the ones further away. Why? Because we know them more and usually because they have done something to make our lives better. Ever reason to love is a selfish reason, but don't think there's anything wrong with that; though, most of the time there is something wrong with it. Look over your selfish reasoning; only you can judge.
To fall in love... is the most complicated of all, I believe. Everyone says they've done it, but have they? How do you know if you are infatuated or in love. Well, if you are two months into a relationship with a person you've only know for a week before the hookup: you're most likely not in love. Now, there is no set time for when you will start loving someone. It's all up to your heart as well as the other's. It's so hard to even write on, and so many have tried to write it out before, and worse: have tried to explain it. But my point here is to tell you how I feel and what I have experienced to help you find out on your own. So to fall in love... you must fall in love. And no one can tell you that you are in love. No one can tell you that you are not in love. It is all up to you.
God isn't exactly my thesis in this unorganized, random blog. Love is the the point. Most people have been in those relationships where they said that they had fallen in love. Most of those people, after losing or leaving the relationship(s), deny that it was ever love. So how then do we know when we are in love? The way one is to love God is to know Him, for if you know Him it's not possible for you to not love Him. You may wish to fight me on this saying: But it is possible for one to know God and not love Him. The truth is, if you know Him completely then you will love Him. It's actually quite simple. What's not simple is to love other people. One cannot use the same way of love as mentioned above to love another person. In order to love another person, you do have to know them to a certain extent. But it takes more than just knowing them. It takes more because you can never fully know anyone except God. God is written of in the Bible where it tells of all of His greatness and none of the opposite because there really isn't any. No one person is written of to such an extent, and people are actually more complex than God. The reason is because God is loving, caring, and omnipotent, and we humans can be loving sometimes to certain people or things, caring half of the time because of selfish motivations, and definitely not omnipotent. But all of us are different. So we can't really love everyone to a full extent, though I must say that we can love everyone. We can love everyone with the love we would associate with a sibling. It may not be exactly like one's love for a sibling, but similar to. We love our closer friends more than the ones further away. Why? Because we know them more and usually because they have done something to make our lives better. Ever reason to love is a selfish reason, but don't think there's anything wrong with that; though, most of the time there is something wrong with it. Look over your selfish reasoning; only you can judge.
To fall in love... is the most complicated of all, I believe. Everyone says they've done it, but have they? How do you know if you are infatuated or in love. Well, if you are two months into a relationship with a person you've only know for a week before the hookup: you're most likely not in love. Now, there is no set time for when you will start loving someone. It's all up to your heart as well as the other's. It's so hard to even write on, and so many have tried to write it out before, and worse: have tried to explain it. But my point here is to tell you how I feel and what I have experienced to help you find out on your own. So to fall in love... you must fall in love. And no one can tell you that you are in love. No one can tell you that you are not in love. It is all up to you.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
To Fall In Love
Falling in love is dangerous business, so they say. Who are they to know what they are even talking about. They say things like: "You're to young to fall in love" and "You don't know what love is". I believe they are blind, thinking they are the only ones who can love. Would you like to know what it takes to love? It takes a simple understanding and to know what you love, whether you love God, a friend, a spouse or significant other, a dog, a hobby, an idea, or even an inanimate object. All you have to do is know. You can't love something without knowing what that subject is. A baby may not know his mother's personality, thoughts, or emotions, but he does know his mother is there to care for him; therefore, he loves her. A preteen girl may be infatuated with a boy and call it love; she is not wrong to call it love. However, she does not understand what she loves. She loves the idea, and not the person. A man meets his future wife when he is almost through his adolescence. He falls in love with her, but they tell him he's too young to love; he's not. Most adolescents have a clouded mind, but they aren't particularly blind. He is in love and he knows it.
To fall in love is such a simple task. It's also a very complicated and complex one. Love is like a seed: you must first plant it in good soil. Then you must nourish it help it to grow. If it fails to keep growing, then you must plant another seed and attempt to keep it growing. Eventually, one seed will continue to grow and will not stop.
For love: You must find someone with whom you are equally yoked. Then you must come to know this person and understand them. If love ceases to grow, then you must find another. Eventually, you will be able to continually grow with someone and your love will never cease.
I all sounds so random. It isn't. It's simply whatever you make it. The thing is: it takes two. So you may have to plant a few seeds, but be careful not to plant more than one at once; you cant care for any more than one. And so, love is complex. You may not understand it at first and you will never fully understand it.
I have fallen in love once. The love ceased to grow. That doesn't meant the love isn't alive any longer, just that it has come to a point where it cannot go on. Without intentionally doing so, I have planted another seed. I didn't understand it at first, but it seems that I have fallen in love. My point now is to just grow. To simply grow...
To lose a love is something different... It is easy to do, though it is very complex. Love lost will be one of the worst things to ever happen to you. To let go is your own decision and to understand is your own goal to reach. If you stay in one place thinking you will never love another, you are wrong. And it may sound like I don't understand what you may be going through, but I do. I have experienced it and I know how to get through. The only problem is that no one can tell you how to get through even if they know. You have to discover it for yourself. So try to find help, and trust in God. If you do, He will lead you in the right direction: to a better place.
To fall in love is such a simple task. It's also a very complicated and complex one. Love is like a seed: you must first plant it in good soil. Then you must nourish it help it to grow. If it fails to keep growing, then you must plant another seed and attempt to keep it growing. Eventually, one seed will continue to grow and will not stop.
For love: You must find someone with whom you are equally yoked. Then you must come to know this person and understand them. If love ceases to grow, then you must find another. Eventually, you will be able to continually grow with someone and your love will never cease.
I all sounds so random. It isn't. It's simply whatever you make it. The thing is: it takes two. So you may have to plant a few seeds, but be careful not to plant more than one at once; you cant care for any more than one. And so, love is complex. You may not understand it at first and you will never fully understand it.
I have fallen in love once. The love ceased to grow. That doesn't meant the love isn't alive any longer, just that it has come to a point where it cannot go on. Without intentionally doing so, I have planted another seed. I didn't understand it at first, but it seems that I have fallen in love. My point now is to just grow. To simply grow...
To lose a love is something different... It is easy to do, though it is very complex. Love lost will be one of the worst things to ever happen to you. To let go is your own decision and to understand is your own goal to reach. If you stay in one place thinking you will never love another, you are wrong. And it may sound like I don't understand what you may be going through, but I do. I have experienced it and I know how to get through. The only problem is that no one can tell you how to get through even if they know. You have to discover it for yourself. So try to find help, and trust in God. If you do, He will lead you in the right direction: to a better place.
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